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If the child is sick more than six times a year or the recovery period lasts longer than 10-12 days, then such a child can be called “FREQUENTLY ill.” Many are used to thinking that the psychological state of the child does not affect his well-being and health. That is why any runny nose or cough is “attributed” to a weak immunity or “painful” environment in a kindergarten or school. Psychologists conducted a series of studies and studied under what conditions ordinary and even familiar childhood diseases can be psychologically motivated.
Let’s look at the different options for the causes of frequent incidence of children from the point of view of psychology in two aspects: the reason is in the child himself and if the reason is in the family, in the parents.
There is such a concept in psychology as “secondary benefit”, it is a kind of benefit that is not immediately visible. In the foreground, there is no benefit on the surface, high fever, sore throat, cough, etc., what good can it be, what other benefit! But … as soon as the baby gets sick, mother, of course, pays special attention to the child, his condition. And oddly enough, it is at this moment that the child can feel loved. If we consider the languages of love according to G. Chapman, then there are such languages as: Continue reading