And this paradoxical thing once became a discovery for me. That a child needs to survive about 50 snot episodes to form a mature immune system. Fifty! Necessary!
That is, the immune system is trained, tuned, tested by these snot. Take away the test material from her – she will not be able to tune. We are so afraid of any snot, we are so worried about them that we are preventing children from being healthy. A little snot – drops in the nose. A little temperature – which also sets up the immune system and teaches it to fight viruses – we get an antipyretic. For us, the normal state of the child is without snot at all. That generally never and for nothing.
But if we understand that this is an important stage, that it is better to get chickenpox in childhood, as well as measles, then we can give children much more health – for a future life. Is it not the hardest thing for a mother to let her children get sick? Today, many of their diseases seem to us a tragedy. But if you look at them in the future, they can become healing. Now he will train the immune system, and then he will be able to survive in the flu epidemic. Is it not valuable? Continue reading
When children get sick, and even more so get to the hospital, worries and worries fall on their parents. And if during this period the struggle for the health of a child turns into a struggle with doctors, it takes away the forces needed for something completely different.
Most often, in a situation of sudden childhood illness, with trauma and other health troubles, parents lose confidence. Little knowledge of what to do is incomprehensible, and doctors speak exclusively in command tone.
But the law supports parents in this situation. Moms and dads (and their loved ones) have enough rights, you just need to know about them. Very often, self-righteousness can improve the psychological climate, make the parent and doctor allies and accelerate the recovery of the child.
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If the child is sick more than six times a year or the recovery period lasts longer than 10-12 days, then such a child can be called “FREQUENTLY ill.” Many are used to thinking that the psychological state of the child does not affect his well-being and health. That is why any runny nose or cough is “attributed” to a weak immunity or “painful” environment in a kindergarten or school. Psychologists conducted a series of studies and studied under what conditions ordinary and even familiar childhood diseases can be psychologically motivated.
Let’s look at the different options for the causes of frequent incidence of children from the point of view of psychology in two aspects: the reason is in the child himself and if the reason is in the family, in the parents.
There is such a concept in psychology as “secondary benefit”, it is a kind of benefit that is not immediately visible. In the foreground, there is no benefit on the surface, high fever, sore throat, cough, etc., what good can it be, what other benefit! But … as soon as the baby gets sick, mother, of course, pays special attention to the child, his condition. And oddly enough, it is at this moment that the child can feel loved. If we consider the languages of love according to G. Chapman, then there are such languages as: Continue reading