Parents can cause our children to become sick often.
We will analyze those cases when we, parents, can be the reason for the frequent incidence of our children. The baby that has been born does not yet know what is good and what is bad. He simply loves us, parents, and with all his heart strives to meet their expectations.
An opportunity to show your love. If a family gets used to living in an atmosphere of constant struggle with childhood ailments, if for mother they are an occasion to show their love for him, then the child will … get sick. At a deep mental level, he does not understand that ailments are bad. He picks up the emotional energy message coming from his parents. And mother sometimes does not realize that a child’s illness brings her a lot of psychological bonuses.
The desire to get attention, sympathy and support from loved ones on the topic: “Ill again! Why are you so punished? How do you get tired !!! .. ”
Increased anxiety, suspiciousness, the ability to make “out of molehills.” Scientists have proven that with anxious parents, children get sick more often. Young children are most susceptible to the manifestation of various diseases against the background of psychological anxiety. And the truth is, after all, it is the kids, like sponges, who absorb everything that surrounds them.
The need for strong impressions. Every person has it, and it doesn’t matter – positive or negative. And when these strong impressions are not enough and the parents live with a feeling of emotional emptiness, it will certainly be filled with something. Even visiting doctors and active treatment of the child. To change the mindset in your head, it is most productive to visit a psychologist. His main advice will be: to find positive ways to get vivid impressions, for example, for mom to go to work from a decree or to discover a creative hobby. This sounds a little strange in the context of an often sick child. What creativity is there! However, this approach definitely works. Try to simply shift the focus of your attention from the illness of the child to what gives you pleasure. You look, and the baby subconsciously “decides” to get sick less so as not to tear his mother from her beloved business and not cause her any trouble.
The emotional climate in the family. Quarrels between mom and dad also provoke childhood ailments. The baby is afraid of losing one of the parents and is doing everything to unite the family. When a child is sick, not to scandals! So, parents in conflict suddenly unite if their child is sick. Given the fact that protracted conflicts between parents are extremely difficult for children, they are ready to do everything to eliminate them. Either the family feels alienation between the parents, and out of fear of losing their father or mother, children can constantly get sick, thereby proving the importance of the parents. Often, diseases appear during moments of family crises, but if they are successfully resolved, they themselves pass. Often illnesses are a way to manipulate parents or make things better at home.
In childhood, a person learns a lot, including health or soreness. Indeed, in the future, someone will safely swim in the hole, and someone will constantly run to the doctors. Some solve problems simply, others prefer to go into a disease and even become disabled (receiving benefits in the form of benefits and a certain position in society). How your child will behave in the future depends on his upbringing and his attitude to health and illness.
The most important advice that any psychologist will give you is to ensure a positive atmosphere in the house, to eradicate quarrels, scandals, and abuse in the family. To devote more time to the child and, most importantly, listen to him, his desires, manifestations of his “I”.