Children need to be sick
And this paradoxical thing once became a discovery for me. That a child needs to survive about 50 snot episodes to form a mature immune system. Fifty! Necessary!
That is, the immune system is trained, tuned, tested by these snot. Take away the test material from her – she will not be able to tune. We are so afraid of any snot, we are so worried about them that we are preventing children from being healthy. A little snot – drops in the nose. A little temperature – which also sets up the immune system and teaches it to fight viruses – we get an antipyretic. For us, the normal state of the child is without snot at all. That generally never and for nothing.
But if we understand that this is an important stage, that it is better to get chickenpox in childhood, as well as measles, then we can give children much more health – for a future life. Is it not the hardest thing for a mother to let her children get sick? Today, many of their diseases seem to us a tragedy. But if you look at them in the future, they can become healing. Now he will train the immune system, and then he will be able to survive in the flu epidemic. Is it not valuable?
Again, letting the child get sick does not mean that he can infect him with everything that is possible. Allowing him to have snot and dragging him into the garden during a flu epidemic are two different things, right? Here again – as elsewhere – it is important to include the mind.
Illness is a cry for love and attention
And one more important point. Almost always, a child’s illness is associated with the devastation of his inner “barrel of love”. Almost always, you may find that a child falls ill in order to immediately receive a large supply of your love and attention. And the faster he replenishes the supply, the faster he will recover.
If the “barrel of love” is full in it, then many viruses will pass by without touching it. But as he empties, the child’s defenses are less and less.
Just watch – when do your children get sick? When you are in contact with them, when everything is fine with you, when you spend a lot of time with pleasure with each other? Or when you have a difficult period that you have to endure, when you need to run somewhere and do something and for now – temporarily – not up to the child? Are they trying to regain you with their snot, to pull you out of your race and illusion? Do they recover faster if you do not just feed them with pills, but lie next to them, read them, hug them and talk about your love? Maybe mother’s hugs and a day together will give more effect than antibiotics? Check it out.
A child’s illness speaks of your exhaustion
And now the most complex and implicit element of a child’s illness. Maybe even unexpected. This is your internal state. A child is connected with you with an energy cord throughout his life. This connection is especially strong while it is small. And if we go back to the “barrel of love,” when will it be empty? When your umbilical cord stops getting there love. That is, when you stop feeding him.
And when do you stop feeding him? Not when you don’t feel like it, and not when you feel sorry. And then when you have nothing. There is nothing to feed – so do not feed. It would be enough for myself. Myself is not enough. And then he needs it. Therefore, childhood diseases are so complicated for us. Because we are already exhausted into this situation, and in the pursuit of healing, we are losing our last strength. It’s wrong – to take care of oneself during a child’s treatment right? It’s good if there is some one who understands who will take care of you, although you don’t ask (and most mothers don’t ask, considering it wrong). And if no one understands this, does not care about you?
To make the child better, he must be nourished with love. But first you need to make sure that on your umbilical cord at least something can come to him. So that you yourself have what you want to convey. Strength, energy, love. Then you can just be with him and he will feel better.
Therefore, ask for the help of your husband, home. Put all things aside and go to bed next to the baby. Just lie down, drink warm tea together, watch cartoons together, sleep during the day. In general, fill both of you with strength and love. Charge your battery so that there is something to charge the child. As in an airplane, first put the oxygen mask on yourself, then on the child. Feed yourself first, and then the baby. Fill your “barrel of love” so that your child’s barrel of love can be replenished through your umbilical cord.
Sometimes the last two points are enough to cure the child. But what is there “sometimes” – almost always. And vice versa, if you do the rest, but do not do the main thing, there will be no healing.